Wendy Bristow Psychotherapy
29 Waterside
44-48 Wharf Road
London N1 7UX
Tel: 07914 833352
British Psychoanalytic Council Accredited

Narcissistic Parents

Your Me-Me-Me Mother (or Father)
Does one (or both) of your parents make everything about them and seem to switch off if you try to get their attention around your needs/feelings/preferences?

This sadly not uncommon pattern in the parent is called Narcissism and it’s very difficult to be on the receiving end, both when you were a child and now as an adult. It leaves a toxic legacy which damages self-esteem and negatively affects your adult relationships.

I have a great deal of experience working with people who’ve grown up with narcissistic parents. The therapy work can involve recognising the damage that’s been done to you by this one-sided relationship, getting out a lot of anger or sadness at your difficult parent and – often the most difficult of all - giving up the desire for them to change.

Many clients with parents like this feel there’s something wrong with them and come to see me in the hope that they can manage their parent differently and not be so bothered by their behaviour. This can happen but involves really looking at all the effects and the resulting painful feelings and navigating a way through.

I have written on this subject for the therapist matching portal welldoing.org. Link here: https://welldoing.org/article/surviving-your-me-me-me-mother

Plus there is an interview here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=za4sy-K0ITY

I have also written on the subject for the psychotherapy journal Therapy Today and run a workshop for therapists about working with adult children of narcissistic parents for WPF Therapy.

Eventbrite link here: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/working-with-the-toxic-legacy-of-narcissi... online-workshop-tickets-290278790677?aff=ebdsoporgprofile

Things therapy can help with:

* Unhappy relationships – especially where the same kind of thing keeps repeating
* Feeling stressed, anxious or depressed
* Lacking focus in life
* Feeling unable to get over a loss like bereavement or a relationship break-up
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* Work problems
* Difficulties with your family
* Difficulties with self-confidence and self-esteem
* Problems with eating, drinking or your feelings about your body
* Difficulties with sex or sexuality
* Handling illness and pain